Most tutors have had that moment where you’re halfway through a lesson, and it’s just not working. Blank stares, side conversations, that one kid tapping a pen like it’s a drum. When this happens, it’s best to reset the lesson.

First thing, read the room. Are they confused, bored, or just flat? There’s no point continuing if they’ve already checked out. Pause, and be honest with yourself about what’s not working.

Next, shift the energy. This doesn’t need to be a big, dramatic change. It can be as simple as asking a left-field question, getting them to stand up and vote on something, or turning the task into a quick challenge.

Then, break it down. What’s the one thing they actually need to understand today? Forget the rest for now. Say it clearly, and build from there. Overcomplicating things when they’re already lost makes it worse for you and for them. Focus on the key idea and give your student a chance to try it independently. When they feel confident and start getting things right, they’re far more engaged and motivated than when they’re sitting there confused.

Finally, give them a way to interact with and almost lead the lesson. Get them talking, guessing, or even getting it wrong. A quick pair discussion or “have a go” question, or even writing on the board, can do more than another five minutes of explaining.

It’s not about having a perfect lesson every time. It’s about knowing when to pivot. Students are tired, sometimes they have a long day, and tutoring is the last thing they want to do. Sometimes the best support you can provide is to admit it’s not working and adapt to meet your students where they are.

Vicki Synesios