Whether it’s stress from school, personal stuff, or just feeling off, juggling your own issues while tutoring can feel overwhelming. I know all to well that it’s tough to show up and be a supportive, encouraging tutor your students need when your own mental load feels heavy. But it’s not impossible.
1. Acknowledge your feelings (but don’t let them take over):
Admitting you’re struggling is the first step the key is not letting those feelings dominate your tutoring sessions. Take a moment before each session to check in with yourself. A deep breath or quick walk can help clear your head in order to be present with your student.
2. Set boundaries:
While it’s great to connect with students, remember that your role is to guide and support their learning—not to solve every problem in their lives (or yours). Keeping sessions focused on their goals can actually be grounding when everything else feels chaotic.
3. Use your struggles to empathise:
Dealing with challenges can make you a more compassionate tutor. If your student is stressed about an upcoming test or struggling with focus, you can relate. Share strategies that have helped you manage tough times—like breaking tasks into small chunks or focusing on what you can control.
4. Take care of yourself:
This might sound obvious, but self-care is essential. Whether it’s getting enough sleep, venting to a friend, or indulging in your favorite comfort food, taking time for yourself makes it easier to be there for others.
At the end of the day, tutoring isn’t about being perfect; it’s about showing up, doing your best, and creating a space where your students feel supported. And sometimes, helping them succeed can remind you that you’re capable of overcoming your own hurdles too.
Allegra Pezzullo
